Mutual first
Nothing happens until two people choose each other. That one rule removes most of what makes dating apps tiring.
About Ishtam
Dating that respects your time
Ishtam is a modern dating platform for adults in India, launching first in Kerala. We want meeting someone new to feel exciting again, and safe throughout.
How your story starts
Seven steps, from signing up to your first conversation.
Create your account
Sign up with your email and confirm it with a six-digit code. You need to be 18 or older.
Build a profile that sounds like you
Add up to six photos, a short bio, your town and the things you love.
Verify with a live selfie
Take a selfie on the site. Our team compares it with your photos and adds a verified badge.
See who is nearby
Swipe through profiles one at a time, or open the map to see people around your town.
Like the people you are curious about
Tap the heart to like or the cross to pass. Nobody is told when you pass on them.
It's a match when you both like each other
Only then does a chat open. No messages from strangers, ever.
Chat, then meet
Messages arrive instantly. When you meet in person, you can scan each other's Ishtam code to connect on the spot.
And that is how a good story starts.
Get StartedWhat we believe
Four principles decide what gets built and what does not.
Clear intentions
Everyone says what they are looking for, so nobody has to guess or pretend.
Privacy as the default
Your contact details and exact location stay private. You choose what to share, and when.
Local before large
We are starting in Kerala so the people you see are people you could really meet.
Where we are starting
Kochi, Thiruvananthapuram, Kozhikode, Thrissur, Kollam, Kannur, Kottayam, Palakkad, and then the rest of India.